Loved Him

The two lovers you’ll meet in this video got together one cold day in November 2020—right at the height of a global pandemic—to fuck for a purpose The memory of their friends who had exited. Not in the current pandemic, but in the one before. We have come a long way as a culture of gay men, who lost so many members of our community between 1982 and the present day. Some say that when we’ve learned what we needed to learn from a trauma or challenge, it passes; whatever we didn’t fully learn or integrate comes up again in the form of a new challenge. What have we learned as a culture of gay men who witnessed the loss of so many friends? What have we learned… and what do we still have left to learn now? Tantra, ultimately, is a marriage of opposites. The video you’re about to see stands as hard evidence that we’re not done grieving, yet it also stands as a perhaps unprecedented testimony to the REALITY that even the deepest well of grief—when properly acknowledged and embraced—can become